New Brunswick Socials Information
Our social nights are for people who want to meet and interact with other like minded adults, without the pressure of any action.
If you have any questions after reading the pages please feel free to ask specific questions, we will add the question and answers to this page. Also, if you have some information that you think we should add please send it to us and if we feel it relevant we will add it to the site.
Everyone involved in Alternative Lifestyles are welcome:
- Kinksters (Your kink is respected, please respect others)
Your relationship status is unimportant, you can be:
- Open Relationships
- Couples, thruples or poly groups
Your sexual persuasion does not matter, we welcome you all:
- Bi Curious
- Gay / Lesbian / Homosexuals
Your Gender is your business:
You should never ask a person their gender.
You should never "Out" someone by revealing their gender to other people.
The following terms are defined at the bottom of the page.
We never discriminate on race or colour:
- Every race is welcome at our events.
- We have been running swingers socials and parties for over 25 years and have welcomed guests from over 40 countries including:
- Brits, Germans, French, Italians, Thai, West Indian, Nigerians, Indians, Latvians, Lithuanians, Pakistanis, Australians, Chinese, Swiss, Spanish, Canadians, Kenyan, Czech, Moroccans, Saudis, Norwegians, Belgians, New Zealanders, South Africans, Romanians, Filipinos, Russians, Dutch, Ukrainian, Polish, Danish, Norwegian, Irish, Arabs, Estonians, Swedes, Ecuadorians, Japanese, Brazilians, Panamanians, Uruguayans, and Americans.
Your experience level does not matter, you can be:
- Curious, come and chat to us, find out what the lifestyle is all about.
- Newcomers, the adult scenes are growing fast, and the more people who join us in the various lifestyles the more fun we can all have.
- Hardcore in your chosen scene, come and find new friends and renew old friendships.
Most people will work hard to make you feel welcome as everyone of us had to take the first step and attend a social or party, or arrange our first meeting, so we are well aware how daunting it can be.
What to Expect at a Social
Socials are not designed to be a dating service so if your only reason for attending is to find a life partner, you will likely be disappointed.
Socials are designed to help you find playmates who have similar interests as you, people with whom you can talk to and learn from, whether you are a novice or an experienced player.
The more people living alternative lifestyle you get to know, the more likely it is that you will find people who want to play with you and more importantly, who you want to play with.
What happens at a Social is pretty much the same as what might happen at any vanilla party. All other people in the venue will see is a group of people being social. They will see people talking and laughing. There may be conversations between women about how hot person A is, just as you would at a BBQ or party. But you also may hear conversations about a child’s graduation, car problems, or the newest movie.
People who attend socials are a regular group of people, who have regular lives with jobs, houses and families.
Once you have worked up the courage to actually attend a Social, what should you do?
Keep the Hosts Updated
From our position as hosts we appreciate it when guests let us know they are coming, and also to show up on the day.
Socials are usually held in bars which makes it necessary to know approximately how many people to expect, as we need to reserve enough space to accommodate everyone.
Don't worry if this is your first social, no-one will be judging you, just checking you out!
If you are worried about walking into a big group of people the trick is to arrive early when the group will be smallest.
Because Socials are usually held in a public location, fetish wear isn’t always appropriate.
Regarding what you should wear, dress as you would to go out for dinner and a movie on the weekend or wear what you would to go out on a date.
If on the other hand you want to wear a sweatshirt and jeans, feel free.
Remember: You are trying to impress the other guests and find new playmates. Guests who are nicely dressed and smelling good are more likely to succeed than some one in sweaty work clothes.
Make an effort to socialize, join in conversations and listen to what people are saying, allow the other guests to talk. If you only talk about yourself the other guests will soon lose interest.
Ask people open questions about themselves (an open question is one that cannot be answered with just a Yes or No response), open questions help move a convesation along. Closed question require just a one word answer, which does not help keep a conversation flowing.
Some Open Questions
Questions requiring a full answer.
- What kind of people are you hoping to meet tonight?
- Are you looking for Swinging friends, Kinksters or Fetishists?
- What questions can you ask to learn the most about a person?
- How did you get involved in the Swinging/BDSM/Fetish Lifestyle?
- What would your ideal partner be like?
- What do you think is needed to make an adult party fun?
- What makes you like or dislike a person?
- How often do you people watch?
- How much has the pandemic changed your life and what you do?
- What is your favourite kind of music? / Who is your favourite artist?
Questions requiring a one word answer.
- Is this your first social?
- Where did you go to school?
- Do you live in Fredericton?
- Did you find the hotel easily?
- Do you like the venue?
- Are you on your own?
- Are you married?
- Are you staying here tonight?
- Are you a swinger?
You won’t form a connection with everyone you meet, but if you chat to enough people you’ll find that you like and get along well with some of them.
Follow normal etiquette. Don’t touch someone without their consent. Just because people are at a social to find playmates does not mean that you can just grope them.
If you are talking to one half of a couple, remember to include the other half. Couples usually like to involve their partners in their fun. If you offend or ignore a husband or wife, the spouse is unlikely to play with you
Behave as you would in any restaurant or bar and keep your servers happy. Social are typically held at the same location, so hosts try to maintain a good relationship with management and the servers. Having a large group to serve may slow down service, so please be patient and understanding.
There are a few things that you should not do
Don’t judge other peoples kinks: A Social is a mix of men and women who are exploring different alternative lifestyles. A wide variety of Fantasies, Fetishes and Kinks are represented and all are welcomed.
Discrimination or shaming of any kind is not allowed so please leave your prejudices at home.
Don't be a creep. While everyone at the Social has a fantasy, Fetish or Kink, you shouldn’t talk only about what turns you on. Bring up other subjects and get to know people. Don’t ask out everyone you meet. Don’t stare at, ogle, perv, stalk or otherwise make someone uncomfortable.
Treat everyone with respect. This includes after the Social has ended. Unless someone has expressed an interest in meeting you please don’t start sending the other guests explicit or graphic messages or emails.
Avoid getting drunk or high. While you may want a drink or two to settle your nerves, keep track of how much you are drinking. A Social is your opportunity to make a good impression which will be impossible if you are drunk or high.
- To help understand who swingers are, and what swinging is all about have a look at the site "What is Swinging"
- To help understand what BDSM & Fetishes are all about have a look at www.kinkycontacts.ca
- For more information on Socials/Munches have a read of this page: https://www.lascivity.co.uk/a-guide-to-your-first-ever-munch/. This page is geared to the Kinky side of life, but the overall information applies at all Socials/Munches.
We hope to hold these social events roughly once a month. The venues will be announced as soon as we have found one we feel comfortable in, or one to which the landlord has invited us.
We will probably hold alternate events in the Fredericton and the Saint Andrews areas.
The socials are open to adults of all ages (19 and over due to licensing laws, our swingers parties allow people 18 and over), all races, and all sexual orientations.
You can contact us by WhatsApp or Telegram or SMS messages on +1 (506) 784 7337 if you have any questions about the socials, but please read through this site first. Sending us a message saying "please tell us more about the Socials" is impossible for us to answer, everything we can think of saying is already in this site. We are happy to answer any specific questions you may have.
- 1. Agender: Agender refers to a person who doesn’t identify with any gender identity, often preferring gender-neutral pronouns such as they.
- 2. Androgyne: A person whose gender expression incorporates both masculine and feminine elements. Androgyne can also describe either gender expression or gender identity.
- 3. Bigender: A person who identifies with both female and male genders. A bigender person may express two genders simultaneously or fluctuates between two genders.
- 4. Cisgender: A person whose gender identity matches the gender assigned to them at birth, usually based on their biological sex.
- 5. Genderfluid: A person whose gender identity is not fixed and changes over time. Genderfluid people can identify with different genders at different times or a combination of genders at once.
- 6. Gender-nonconforming: An umbrella term that describes anyone whose gender expression or identity does not align with traditional societal expectations.
- 7. Genderqueer: An umbrella term for a person who doesn’t identify with a single gender identity. This term overlaps with non-binary and can also describe anyone who is not cisgender.
- 8. Intergender: A person whose expression and identity falls between genders or combines genders.
- 9. Intersex: A person born with ambiguously gendered bodies due to chromosome anomalies or ambiguous genitalia. Intersex people often receive a gender assignment at birth through medical intervention, which may or may not correspond to the gender they identify with as they age.
- 10. Omnigender: A person who identifies as a mixture of several genders or as all genders simultaneously, including ones outside the traditional male-female binary. Pangender is another term for omnigender.
- 11. Non-binary: A person who doesn’t fall under the traditional male-female binary. A non-binary person may identify as both male and female, or neither.
- 12. Questioning: A person who is in the process of exploration or discovery regarding their gender expression or identity.
- 13. Transgender: A person whose gender identity doesn’t match their assigned sex at birth (often shortened to “trans” or listed with their affirmed gender, e.g., “trans woman” or “trans man”). Some transgender people choose to undergo hormonal treatments or surgeries to match their gender identity, but others do not.
- 14. Transsexual: An older term sometimes used to describe a person who has chosen to undergo hormonal treatments or anatomical surgeries to match their gender identity. While some people identify with this term, others find it offensive or outdated because of how the medical community historically used the label.
- 15. Two-spirit: A broad term that some Indigenous North Americans use to describe people in their community who identify as having both a masculine and feminine spirit. Two-spirit can describe gender expression and/or sexual identity.